How it Works

50 years of the best personal growth work, integrated into a single practice. 

The Central Mechanism

The Eye Access Technique

Two bodies of work come together to form the central mechanism that all Door Number Three practitioners use: the Eye Access Technique. The key idea comes from the fact that the brain stores and accesses memories spatially — by looking at them. 

From NLP

Eye-accessing cues

Eye movements aren't random. They're the brain navigating to where it has organized a particular experience. A practitioner trained to read these movements can tell, from where the client's eyes go, whether the brain is primarily working in images, sounds, or feelings in that moment.

From Jonathan Rice

Core Sort

Rice, a psychotherapist, took this idea further. He discovered that if the brain accesses stored experience by looking at it spatially, then a present-state feeling — fear, for example — has a specific location the eyes return to. That location connects to the original memory where that feeling was first installed.

This allows a practitioner to find not only what a pattern is doing in the present — but also where it came from. Once there, the work of changing it can begin. 

What the Work Draws From

An integrated approach, not a single technique.

No single framework is sufficient for the full range of what keeps human beings stuck. Door Number Three practitioners are trained to draw from multiple disciplines, integrated into a coherent practice rather than applied in isolation.

Early Childhood Development

The psychological science of how pre-verbal and early childhood experiences are encoded in the nervous system — before language, before conscious memory, before the capacity to evaluate.

Internal Parts Work

The framework of working with distinct inner parts — the protectors, the exiles, the managers — each with their own perspective and needs. Useful for working with internal conflict and self-sabotage.

Family Systems

Virginia Satir's insight that patterns are relational. The roles, rules, and loyalties of the family system shape behavioral patterns that persist long after the family context has changed.

Neuro-Linguistic Programming

The structural foundation. Eye-accessing cues, language patterns, submodalities, and the mechanics of how the brain stores and organizes experience.

Attachment Theory

The science of how early relational experiences with caregivers shape the patterns of connection, safety, and self-worth that persist into adult relationships.

Systemic Constellations

Carl Buchheit's integration and extension of Bert Hellinger's Family Constellations work. Addresses hidden systemic dynamics — ancestral, relational, multigenerational — that persist beyond individual memory and respond to being worked with at the system level.

Somatic Awareness

Patterns live in the body, not just the mind. Somatic approaches work with how the nervous system holds and expresses pattern — through posture, sensation, breath, and physical response.

Holographic Perspectives

Carl Buchheit's framework for seeing how a pattern expresses itself across every domain of a person's life simultaneously — the same structure showing up in relationships, career, health, and self-concept at once.

Spiritual & Systemic Frameworks

Perspectives that situate the individual within larger systems — ancestral, collective, or transpersonal. Used when the work calls for it, not as a default.

People feel seen in ways they didn't expect — and notice changes in their relationships, careers, and a sense of ease that they'd stopped believing were possible.

Over 50 years of accumulated knowledge.

Door Number Three stands on the shoulders of giants. Each person in this lineage built on what came before.

  • 1960s - 1970s

    Virginia Satir

    Family Systems Therapy

    Virginia Satir was a psychotherapist who made a foundational observation: that a person's behavior cannot be understood in isolation from the relational system they grew up in. The way a family organizes itself — how it communicates, how it handles emotion, what it rewards and punishes — shapes the emotional and behavioral patterns a child carries into adulthood.

    Her insight shifted the frame from individual pathology to systemic pattern. A person isn't broken. They learned to navigate a specific environment. Their behavior is the logic of that environment, still running long after the environment has changed.

  • 1970s - 1980s

    Richard Bandler & John Grinder

    Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP)

    Bandler and Grinder developed NLP by sitting with exceptional practitioners — including Virginia Satir and the anthropologist Gregory Bateson — and reverse-engineering what made their work effective. Their book The Structure of Magic documented this: an attempt to make explicit what highly skilled therapists did intuitively. They mapped the structure of subjective experience: how the brain processes language, builds beliefs, and organizes memory.

    Among their specific observations: eye movements are not random. When recalling different types of experiences, people move their eyes in predictable directions that correspond to how the brain is accessing the memory. Visual memories are accessed differently from auditory ones. Constructed images are accessed differently from remembered ones.

    This was the first systematic map of where experiences are neurologically stored.

  • 1980s – 2010s

    Jonathan Rice

    Core Sort

    Jonathan Rice was a licensed psychotherapist who also trained in NLP with Bandler. He noticed something specific: that certain eye movements don't just access memories — they lead to original memories – the first experience where a pattern was installed. Not a later version, not a similar situation — the origin point from early childhood, often pre-verbal.
    Rice developed the core sort: a method to follow these eye movements to the origin of a pattern, and to work with the pattern there. This was the missing piece. Not just understanding where patterns come from, but being able to go there and work with them.
    The name "core sort" refers to the sorting function the brain performs — assigning present-day experiences to categories based on early learning. When you feel a familiar feeling in a new situation, your brain has sorted it to the same category as an original experience. The core sort technique makes it possible to revise that original category at its source.

  • 1980s – 2000s

    Bert Hellinger

    Family Constellations

    Bert Hellinger was a German psychotherapist who developed Family Constellations: a method for making visible the hidden dynamics operating within family systems across generations. His work revealed that individuals often carry loyalties, grief, and unresolved patterns that originated not with them but with earlier members of their family system — parents, grandparents, those whose stories were never spoken aloud.

    Constellations work doesn't resolve these patterns through insight alone. It works spatially and somatically, making the system's structure visible so that what was hidden can be acknowledged and released.

  • 1990s – present

    Carl Buchheit

    NLP Marin & Holographic Constellations

    Carl Buchheit trained extensively with Richard Bandler, then worked closely with Jonathan Rice. He integrated NLP and the core sort with early childhood developmental psychology — adding a rigorous understanding of how pre-verbal experiences shape the nervous system and why patterns formed in infancy are particularly persistent and hard to shift through insight alone.
    Jonathan Rice taught the core sort directly to Carl and Carla Camou, who integrated it into the NLP Marin curriculum. Carl also integrated Hellinger's Constellations work, extending it into what he calls Holographic Constellations: a framework for seeing how systemic patterns — across family, relational, and ancestral lines — express themselves holographically through every domain of a person's life at once. This isn't a separate technique bolted on. It's woven throughout the curriculum. Holographic Constellations is a core part of the Holographic I and II training that all NLP Marin graduates complete.
    He founded NLP Marin in 1993 to teach this integrated approach. The certification program runs 6 to 24 months depending on level and is the core of every Door Number Three practitioner's training.

Not therapy. Not coaching.

Door Number Three

Different from therapy

Therapy and this work cover much of the same territory: early childhood experiences, family patterns, the relationship between the past and present behavior. Many of the questions a therapist asks are similar to the questions a Door Number Three practitioner asks.

The difference is what happens once you understand it. Therapy helps you understand and process the pattern. EMDR uses bilateral eye movement to process traumatic memories. CBT works with the relationship between thoughts and behavior. DBT builds skills for emotional regulation and distress tolerance. Each operates at the level of processing, reframing, or managing the pattern. 

This work takes the next step — going to the neurological origin of the pattern and updating it there, not just developing insight about it.

Understanding why you have a pattern is different from the brain no longer running it. Both are valuable. They operate at different levels.

Some clients work with a therapist and a Door Number Three practitioner simultaneously. 

Different from coaching

Coaching assumes the obstacle is information, clarity, or accountability. The coach provides the framework, the strategy, or the accountability structure — and the client executes it. This works well when the obstacles are primarily external.

This work makes a different assumption: that the obstacle is often a pattern running underneath. An inner resistance that makes execution hard regardless of how good the strategy is. No amount of accountability changes the pattern producing the resistance.

When the underlying pattern changes, the behavior tends to follow naturally. Not because the client is being held to a plan — because the resistance is gone. No step-by-step instructions. No check-ins. The change generates its own momentum.

You don't need to be held accountable when the inner resistance is no longer there.

Safety first. Change when you're ready.

This work draws from Psychology, Early Childhood Development, Family Systems, Somatic Awareness, Systemic Constellations, Neuro-Linguistic Programming, Spirituality, a Quantum World View, & other modalities.

Safety and rapport

The first step is to help your system feel safe enough to be honest. Your brain needs to know it is okay to surface what has been running.

Understanding your world

You and your practitioner explore what is happening now and what you want instead.

How everything makes sense

Every pattern limiting you was a solution once. Your practitioner helps you see how it protected you, helped you survive, helped you belong. 

Change at the source

Using the Eye Access Technique, your practitioner connects your conscious mind with the earliest memory driving the pattern, and helps change it there. You are present and in control throughout. No drugs. No hypnosis.

Safety and Consent

You are present and in control throughout.

One of the most common concerns people have is whether the practitioner will do something to them without their awareness or consent. The answer is straightforward: no.

Not hypnosis

This work does not use hypnosis and does not require an altered state of consciousness. You are fully present, fully aware, and actively participating throughout the session. The change happens with your conscious mind, not around it.

No drugs or substances

Sessions involve no drugs, supplements, or substances of any kind. The work operates entirely through conversation, attention, and the practitioner's guidance of your own neurological processes.

Your pace, your consent

You can slow down, pause, or stop at any point. Nothing moves to formal changework until you are ready and willing. Most clients describe the work as surprisingly gentle given how deep it goes.

This work is not a substitute for licensed mental health care. If you are in active crisis or managing a clinical mental health condition, please work with a licensed therapist first. Many clients do both simultaneously and find the approaches complement each other.

Most people notice a shift in the first session.

Every practitioner offers a free 20-minute intro call. No commitment, no prior knowledge required.